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Wander & Whimsy's avatar

Thank you for sharing this! 💟

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Kate Speer's avatar

Thank you for reading it! 💜💜

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BG Caldwell's avatar

Kate, you are amazing! Having lived this and now sharing it with us in the beautiful Kate way. Thank goodness for you. 💜💜💜

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Kate Speer's avatar

Thank you -- so much 💜💜💜

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Kate Speer's avatar

I’ve honestly been feeling pretty crummy and notes like this really help 💜

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Laura Ballori's avatar

It has always been that simple, but it took so much bravery for you to do something simple. I have really good friends, but they live all over the place and whenever I think of moving (to a city where I want to live but where none of my friends are) the idea of having no friends nearby and the idea of how I’d find the guts to talk to a stranger just stop me and leave me stuck back home, in a place I dislike, yet has the comfort of people to meet for lunch once in a blue moon.

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Kate Speer's avatar

I totally relate - and I believe you could find your people in the new places you want to go!

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Laura (Parker) Weaver's avatar

Thank you for sharing your heart, reminds me there are still chances to meet our soul friends as I call them

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Kate Speer's avatar

It’s hard to remember more often than not. In this hyper connected digital world people feel farther away than ever.

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Kara Burkholder's avatar

Kate - you are a gift. Even though this is your experience, there were pieces that I could relate to. You have overcome so much, and I'm proud of you! I know not every day is a breeze, but you do what you can, and I admire that. It reminds me of something I read a few weeks ago: Even when you only have 40% to give, if you give that 40%, you gave 100%.

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Christine Dougherty's avatar

Thank you for sharing this soul bearing account of learning how to make friends as an adult. You are amazing.😊

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Lisa Perez's avatar

When I was young I made up a family that included abandoned kids that were in a band. They all came together from dysfunctional families to live in an aunt's apartment and were fiercely loyal to each other. This family got me through a traumatic childhood as well as the nights after my mother abandoned me. I always think mine is the worst story, but it isn't, unfortunately it is just one of many. I am so glad you saw your way through, here with us as we heal together.

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Katherine's avatar

Thank you for sharing so much of yourself here with us! It’s an honor to be part of your journey and hear your stories!

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CC's avatar

Oh how hard you worked to be ok! And how far you've come...💜

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Lynn lawson/ lakotalabs's avatar

Love you kate!

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Jill Quaglino's avatar

You truly are remarkable and resourceful and inspiring. I relate very much to finding family in characters and learning from them 💜💜💜 thank you as always

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March Terrell Henley's avatar

Your writing style and thought processes made the growth and discoveries you covered so honestly, even more riveting and engrossing. As usual, you have left me spellbound. Xo

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Heather K's avatar

Love this Kate. So brave. I am so very much not athletic and going to the squash courts even by myself would make me scared and self conscious now. Making friends is always hard, no matter your age bc you have to make yourself vulnerable to rejection. You're a rock star Kate. 💜

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rose's avatar

Loving this so much! Hooray for Kelly and for V’s speech and most of all for you, Kate 💜

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Liz's avatar

Thank you for writing- I always look forward to reading your pieces! 💕

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Robin Wisman's avatar

Making friends has always been excruciating for me. I have a voice that lives inside my head that tells me that people don’t really like me; they find me annoying or weird; they don’t want me around, etc. It doesn’t help that I’m super shy, super anxious, and most of my hobbies are solitary pursuits. I do feel lonely sometimes but mostly I’ve contented myself alone or with my partner. I do have one good friend since my childhood. She’s more sister than friend at this point. But she has a condition that requires chemotherapy thus her immune system is compromised so we haven’t been in the same room together in years. We keep up via text mostly. It is encouraging to read your story. Maybe I can somehow find the courage to just leave the house and find people. Thank you for sharing this 😊

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