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Dan Levine's avatar

"And only when I am honest can I heal."

honesty is the key for almost every important thing.

this reminded me of a saying i heard long ago: "time is the cure for all things except lies"

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Connie B's avatar

Your story is so inspiring. Thanks for always being so honest and vulnerable. 😊

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Cally Starforth's avatar

Thanks for your honesty . Really sorry to hear about Maura. I lost my partner Heavenli when she was aged 30 to suicide in a psych hospital. We met in hospital both of us sectioned for long periods . I like you was worried about posting any personal stuff on this platform but in end have put out the first two chapters of my memoir called 'I Only See Strangers' about the long term consequences of social isolation and exclusion as a podcast with text/drawing. I set the book at the week long inquest into Heavenli's death (she is called Dolly in book as I changed the names to protect her identity)

https://open.substack.com/pub/callystarforth/p/i-only-see-strangers?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=1eq51l

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Linda Hoenigsberg's avatar

Kate... I experienced much of what you wrote about during my twenties. I know the fugue state well. As I was reading, I thought, she experiencing post traumatic growth too. I think healing can take a lifetime and we can experience PTSD and growth from/through it at the same time. You're write is gorgeous. I'm going to subscribe.

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Netta Dingle's avatar

Hi Kate. I totally feel and understand how you feel. You are not alone. This is so heartfelt and your inspiration is uplifting. It’s takes a or of courage for you to write this. I’m sending positive vibes, healing vibes, and virtual hugs to you. 💕

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Tiffany's avatar

Your posts are so relatable. I also have a serious mental illness and struggle with healing. Thank you for being you and being open about yourself so that people like me can see and relate. You're an amazing person and I'm glad you're going at a pace that's good for you for healing. I've been doing the same... Some days are easier than others. Warmest of well wishes to you. :)

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Heather K's avatar

Beautiful words Kate. Thank you 💜

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Emily W's avatar

I have been on disability since 18, and I pet sit on the side very part-time. I am 39, never finished college, and grew up in psych wards. I had a lot of ECT and lived in several residential facilities. My last hospitalization was 11 years ago. I am batshit mentally ill. You are amongst friends, Kate. ❤️ You are not alone. Thank you for being brave and sharing your stories and life with us. My world is brighter knowing that I am not alone— that you are here too.

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Karen's avatar

This breaks my heart. On top of all the suffering, the suicide attempt, the actual suicide of Maura, to hear the brokenness of your dad when he realized…

Kate, you are a continuous work of art. Keep breathing, keep fighting, keep loving. I wait for these posts. I try not to bother you, because I know that you will post when you can (either here or on Insta). I hope in posting less, you are off line more. It’s so easy to get caught up in the pretend world we are all living in (in social media).

Continue to take care of yourself and work through what is needed. We are always here for you. Enjoy your pups and the daddy, the changing leaves, the crunch when walking.

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Laura (Parker) Weaver's avatar

Sending all the love 💜💜💜 being human is hard and some days our minds are out of our reach…. Thank you for your words, honesty, and for reminding us to be honest with where we are at

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Megan's avatar

I've never heard the phrase breakdowns are breakthroughs and wow that is a really beautiful thing to hear amidst a difficult year. Thank you for being real with us and sharing your truth.

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Lisa's avatar

Sending you a day, Kate 💜

Being human is the hardest 💜

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Holly Starley's avatar

Holy damn, you’re amazing, Kate. Thank you for sharing. I am very glad to have found you and your work and your truth. Which the world needs.

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Kate Speer's avatar

Thank you, Holly. So so much. 💜💜💜

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Laura Ballori's avatar

Thank you for your words. 💜💜💜

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Kate Speer's avatar

Thank you for taking the time and caring enough to read them!

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CC's avatar

Thank you for helping me to feel how I truly feel 💜💜💜

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Kate Speer's avatar

Thank you for being here so lovingly with me 💜💜💜

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