(un)Mentionable | Kate Speer | Substack

Every Professional I’ve Ever Met Told Me Not to Share This

On my 39th birthday, I’m doing it anyway.

5 hrs ago • Kate Speer

I’m Sorry I Couldn’t Stay Earthside for the Joy, Too

A piece about trying to come home to myself the best way I know how—by talking to Waffle

Aug 9 • Kate Speer

I Almost Admitted Myself to the Psych Ward This Week

and it was for the most unexpected discomfort

Aug 1 • Kate Speer

I Have Absolutely No Idea What I'm Doing

I left in search of a plan and, sure as heck, I still don't have one

Jul 25 • Kate Speer

Our best girl took her last breath

Our best girl took her last breath on the darkest day of the year.

Jan 5 • Kate Speer

Memoirs

Chapter 7: The Choice

His words were devastating, but they turned out to be a profound gift.

Dec 5, 2025 • Kate Speer

With Love and Wafflenugget | 6. The Unmentionables

The hard truth of our current (and very broken) mental healthcare system for people with serious mental illness

Nov 21, 2025 • Kate Speer

With Love, and Wafflenugget | 5. Three p.m. or the Residential Ward, Forever.

A newly released chapter and how I learned that feelings and emotions are not, in fact, the same thing.

Nov 14, 2025 • Kate Speer

With Love, and Wafflenugget | 4. Friendship or Contamination?

As I take a break, a memoir excerpt from "With Love, and Wafflenugget"

Oct 17, 2025 • Kate Speer

With Love, and Wafflenugget

Start here to explore my second memoir and the chapters I've written so far

Oct 17, 2025 • Kate Speer

Your Nervous System

14 Ways to Befriend Your Nervous System

A set of gentle experiments to start connecting with your body's own alert system.

Oct 16, 2025 • Kate Speer

A Life in Fight, Flight, Freeze... and Fugue

How my Nervous System helped me survive, and how I learned to finally honor its widsom.

Oct 3, 2025 • Kate Speer

Lab Notes: Your Nervous System Isn’t Broken — It’s Brilliant

Why TikTok is a flaming disaster on this topic, and why "regulation" ≠ calm.

Sep 26, 2025 • Kate Speer

The Day My Nervous System Finally Broke Open

How, after 20 years of failed therapies, how I finally came home to myself.

Sep 19, 2025 • Kate Speer

Finding Safety

6 Steps to Find Safety, When Things Get Tough

And how caring for yourself builds a future with deeper, collective care.

Nov 7, 2025 • Kate Speer

Lab Notes: Before You Can Heal, You Have to Feel Safe

A deep dive into why Safety sits at the root of most methods of healing.

Oct 31, 2025 • Kate Speer

Finding Safety at 3:45 A.M. at the Price Chopper

Because when it comes to feeling safe, you gotta do, what you gotta do.

Oct 24, 2025 • Kate Speer

Guides

My Secret Weapon: The Physiological Sigh

One of my faves: A fast, effective technique for finding nervous system regulation whenever and wherever you are.

Jul 20, 2025 • Kate Speer

Box Breathing for Beginners

How to calm the mind and lower stress in 16 seconds.

Jul 20, 2025 • Kate Speer

How to Shake it Like a Dog

A quick, fun way to interrupt your stress cycle and find nervous system regulation. Bonus: it's a dog thing.

Jul 20, 2025 • Kate Speer

Cold Plunging 101

A summary of everything I've learned as I tried cold therapy over one year.

Jul 20, 2025 • Kate Speer

Float like a butterfly, breathe like a bee

This week's experiment, in "bee breathing"

Feb 23, 2025 • Kate Speer

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